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Exclusive: Interview with Peace and Freedom Presidential Candidate, Roseanne Barr

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Shalom Life released an interview that they recently did with Peace and Freedom Presidential candidate, Roseanne Barr, and I was intrigued to hear her answers on some political questions that many may have. One of my very best friends (actually a few) love Roseanne Barr and were excited to hear she was running. Truthfully, I thought it was all a joke that somewhat made sense because I agreed with a lot that she had said. Never did I imagine that her name would actually be on the ballot of President in 2012.

I really love her views on marijuana and wish that every candidate understood why this made sense.

Although I doubt she has an actual chance to win this election, nor do I really believe she’s qualified, it would be great to share what her stance is on certain issues as well as hear her speak out about why she is running and whether her motivation came from the corrupted system we have now, or an innate interest in politics. Below is the interview that Roseanne Barr participated in, shortly after the 2012 Presidential debate between Mitt Romney and current President Barack Obama.

ASHLEY BAYLEN (AB): Did you ever expect the woman that stepped onto ‘The Tonight Show’ stage almost 30 years ago to be running for President?

ROSEANNE BARR (RB): Absolutely! Ever since I was a little girl I’ve had a deep yearning to lead and bring a huge change into the world. Just because you have a Messiah Complex doesn’t mean you can’t do Messianic work and bring change on a grand scale. Let’s ALL be saviors and healers and march together! I’m running for President because I figure you have to start somewhere. Even Presidents have to play ball but I want to make the game less crooked.

AB: Have you always been interested in pursuing a political career, or is this Presidential campaign a response to your disappointment with the current state of America?

RB: Yes! I come from a very very political family-politics were always important from childhood.

AB: The platform for the Peace and Freedom party almost mirrors the issues you raised during your run for the Green Party ticket. Why didn’t you run with the Peace and Freedom party from the beginning?

RB: This is the way things rolled out. Looking over my shoulder and analyzing each step or misstep that brought me to the present takes time away from right now, and as wise thinkers have said from the beginning: “The time is NOW.” Here I am; Let’s roll!

AB: I’m from Toronto, and it seems the Peace and Freedom party is very similar to Canada’s New Democratic Party. Are you familiar with the NDP?

RB: I’m sorry to say I’m not, but if we’re very similar, well, THAT is probably the most important thing to know. Sounds like we’re on different trains, but the same track. Full speed ahead!

AB: Legalization of marijuana is a subject you care very strongly about. On your presidential website, you mention re-writing the laws to be “sane and people based”. What exactly does that mean and why is this issue so important to you?

RB: The jury is NOT out, anymore; Listen, demonizing Weed is just plain bad policy. We’re criminalizing our own people, wasting billions of dollars and eroding our freedom with the endless, destructive “War on drugs,” but, specifically, the part focused on persecuting and prosecuting people who use Marijuana. We destroy our own credibility by allowing cigarettes and alcohol to be sold everywhere while hypocritically pretending we’re all about protecting people. I could go on all day, so don’t get me started. The facts are everywhere and they’re incontrovertible. We’ve had twenty years of Presidents who smoked pot and it didn’t stop them from becoming President. Enough said, for now? More on request.

AB: You previously joked about running to become Prime Minister of Israel, and you frequently discuss Israel and Palestine on Twitter, in speeches, and your blogs. If you became President, what would you implement to “bring Peace to the Middle East”?

RB: I would call together the calmest, most moderate advocates on each side of the divide, demonstrate respect for each other’s positions and concerns and begin to incrementally search for opportunities for rational discussion. There’s not a justifiable reason why people who claim to be moral, who swear they believe in a righteous G-d that sees and knows all, should not be able to at least sit in a room and admit that something has to be done to protect their own children from hatred and violence. That’s not a naive statement; it’s one based in intelligence, logic and rational self-interest. We can build on that.

AB: What do you believe the actual issues in Israel are?

RB: The issues are Netanyahu’s endless clamoring for war with Iran, which we know will basically amount to a “fly-by” bombing, a beat-down, that will kill innocent civilians. Look, Ahmadinejad’s rhetoric is just that, the blustery saber-rattling of a nation ringed by superior military power on every front. Iran is looking down the barrel of Israel’s massive nuclear arsenal and the most superior military, by far, in their part of the world. Speaking of honesty: does it make someone “anti-Israel’ to point to the fact that Israel has always been coy and elusive about what everyone knows is their nuclear capability, while they demand to know exactly what Iran is up to? I think not.

The capper is: Israel’s defense minister has just called for a broad unilateral withdrawal from the West Bank if talks with the Palestinians remain stalled, saying in published comments that “practical steps” are needed to breathe life into the stalemated peace process.

The proposal drew attention to the dire state of affairs with the Palestinians, which has been overshadowed by Israel’s focus on the Iranian nuclear program. Prime Minister Netanyahu, convinced that Tehran is pursuing nuclear weapons, says the Islamic Republic must be stopped and has devoted his 3 1/2 year term to rallying international support against the Iranians. At the same time, he has largely ignored the Palestinian issue.

In an interview with the Israel Hayom daily, Defense Minister Ehud Barak implied that the deadlock with the Palestinians cannot be sustained indefinitely.

“It’s better to reach an agreement with the Palestinians, but if that doesn’t happen, we must take practical steps to start a separation,” he said. “It will help us not only in dealing with the Palestinians, but also with other countries in the region, with the Europeans, and with the American administration — and of course (will help) us.”

AB: You have been criticized, mostly on Twitter, for being anti-Semitic. I know you’ve defended yourself by claiming your Jewish heritage, but do you not believe it’s possible to discriminate your own culture? Do you believe you’re comments are excusable because of your background as a comedian?

RB: For one Jew to call another Jew anti-semitic is a tired, insulting, overused propagandist device, a generally groundless way to discredit ANYONE who dares to question the warlike policies of Israel’s Right Wing Gov’t, but mostly to discredit the wonderful Israeli socialists who built Israel. I stand with millions of Jews, worldwide, who also do not wish to march in lockstep with the Netanyahu regime. Where there are two Jews, there are THREE opinions. I’m pretty traditional in that sense, don’t you think?

AB: Do you believe you “get away” with certain beliefs and bold statements because you’re known to the world as a comedian, instead of coming from a background in politics?

RB: I am, first and foremost, a human being of conscience, and a citizen of a great nation that prides itself on being a bastion of free speech. On top of that, Yes, I AM a comic, a member of a profession that’s known for brazen, thought-provoking speech. I’m a law-abiding American – I don’t “get away” with anything; I speak my mind with the best of intentions, and in all honesty, and I face the consequences. I dish it out, and I take it.

AB: After reading all of your policies, many people might call you an “idealist”. What would you do as President to implement concepts such as “equal rights for all” or “forgiving all student loans”?

RB: This nation, and all great humanitarian undertakings were started by idealists. Really, there’s nothing particularly naive or unrealistic about asking our country and its institutions to walk the talk. There certainly has to be an alternative to making young students and graduates carry backbreaking debt that grows larger with interest, for decades, in an economy that doesn’t allow them a means to pay that debt down. Everyone is being asked to tighten their belts and lower their expectations during this worldwide economic crisis. Why should bankers be any different? If super-wealthy banks, flush with assets and not embarrassed to ask for and receive a bailout can’t take a hit – who CAN?

AB: Why did you select Cindy Sheehan as your running mate?

RB: Cindy’s credentials are unquestionable. She, as a mother, paid the ultimate price for what history is showing to be the greatest foreign policy debacle in American History; but what makes her different than thousands of other citizens in her situation is that she has never stopped confronting the forces that have caused this ongoing horrific loss. She has continued to educate and disseminate and speak truth to power. More and more Americans are seeing the tragic folly of waging these wasteful distant wars while claiming that we can’t afford to take care of essential needs at home. Peace and Freedom IS Cindy Sheehan!

AB: If you had to summarize your message in just one sentence, what would it be?

RB: We need to hold our country up to the standards it professes, end slavery and war in all its forms, and make peace and freedom a reality, starting NOW!

AB: The United States has never voted someone into power outside the Republican or Democratic party. Knowing this, are you hoping to be the first, or simply using your global influence to make issues normally avoided in the media made known to the public?

RB: Well, it wouldn’t be very inspiring to tell people I think there’s no chance I’ll be elected. Having said that, yes, I’m raising consciousness on issues that are NOT receiving the attention they should: The destructive War on Drugs, The burning need for Campaign Finance Reform and term limits, ending slavery in all its forms, Monsanto’s Frankenstein-ing of our food supply and seeds, the shameful under-representation of women and the attack on their reproductive rights, the removal of the Electoral College, the auditing of the Fed, Debt forgiveness, Iceland-style – the list goes on, and so do I!

AB: However, if you did win the Presidency, not only would you be the first outside of the two-party system, but the first woman and the first Jew. Which of these three “firsts” would mean the most to you?

RB: They would all be landmarks and milestones, but we need to maintain separation of Church and State, so I don’t know how much weight should be given to Religion or ethnicity, although almost 200 years of White, Anglo-Saxon Protestant MEN DOES seem like a pattern that needed to be broken. The first woman President would be a BIG deal, obviously, but the goal is to keep moving forward to the time when it WON’T be a big deal, just like the color of President Obama’s skin should not be. However, the TRUTH is-that if elected, I would be the FIRST President of the USA not related by BLOODLINE to the Royal Family of England- including Obama. That would be a TRUE FIRST.

AB: Do you plan on running again in 2016?

RB: Please, I HATE this idea whereby campaigns start BEFORE the election in our face, THIS cycle, has even been decided. The European model should serve as an example. Our, tiresome, mud-slinging, non-stop campaigning is NOT productive.

AB: How do you want to be remembered?

RB: As the first person to live forever, and one who finally received the adoration she deserved. Oh, and for my pragmatism and humility, too. Get THAT in there!

AB: What are you currently working on, you know, other than running for President of the United States? Any upcoming tours, TV shows, films?

RB: For a change, I’m not looking past what’s on my plate next, which I hope is some lovely angel hair pasta, a delightful salad with a plummy red wine on the side, some fresh, fragrant garlic bread, and then a big, cozy nap! Doesn’t that sound heavenly?

Roseanne’s latest book ‘Roseannearchy: Dispatches from the Nutfarm’ is available now!Click here to get yourself a copy.

Follow Roseanne at:

Official Website: http://www.roseanneworld.com/

Presidential Website: http://www.roseanneforpresident2012.org/

Twitter: @TheRealRoseanne

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[VIDEO] Macklemore & Ryan Lewis – Same Love feat. Mary Lambert (OFFICIAL VIDEO)

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If you haven’t heard of Macklemore & Ryan Lewis, today is your lucky day. The collaboration of these two is amazing and I  just started listening to their music (Thrift Shop Music Video) a couple of months ago, but know I am a huge fan already. Then, today, I find this video, which shows their support for marriage equality, as well as equality in general, but specifically homosexuals. For me, this makes me an even bigger fan, who will show my support not only for their great music, but also for their morals and integrity. Musicians have the power to influence people, and I’m glad Macklemore and Ryan Lewis are doing it in this way.

YouTube:

Same Love feat. Mary Lambert on iTunes:http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/same-love-feat.-mary-lambert/id543948282

We support civil rights, and hope WA State voters will APPROVE REF 74 and legalize marriage equality. Visit http://www.music4marriage.org for more info. Support Marriage Equality by ordering the limited edition Same Love vinyl here:http://www.subpop.com/catalog/artists/macklemore_and_ryan_lewis

Same Love, as featured on the debut album from Macklemore & Ryan Lewis, The Heist, will be available 10/09/2012

The Heist
iTunes Pre-Order:http://itunes.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewAlbum?id=560097651
Amazon: http://amzn.com/B00908DDZM
Deluxe CD Pre-Order: http://www.macklemoremerch.com
In-Stores 10/09/2012

Same Love, A Film By:
Ryan Lewis
Jon Jon Augustavo
Tricia Davis

Directed by:
Ryan Lewis
Jon Jon Augustavo

Produced by:
Tricia Davis

Director of Photography:
Mego Lin

Associate Producer:
Honna Kimmerer

Starring:
Jairemie Alexander
William Pontius
Shelton Harris
Sarita Valdez
Jay Sommerville

Cast:
Jairemie Alexander
William Pontius
Shelton Harris
Sarita Valdez
Jay Sommerville
Thomas Collins
Tina Tsiakalis
Kendall Kapsner
Rosie Cole
Rory King
Josue Gonzalez
Mia Clapp Perfetti
Mary Lambert
Robert Braxton
Jaida Kimmerer
Brooklyn Thornton

Crew:
Tricia Davis – Producer
Mego Lin – Director of Photography
Honna Kimmerer – Production Design
Miles Johnson – Lead Green
Evelyn Brodersen – Lead Green
Jennifer Terrana – Lead Green
Jennifer Popochock – Makeup Artist
David Herberg – Key Grip
Wil Drake – Best Boy Grip
Mike Dyrland – Best Boy Grip
Yu Chen Lin – Gaffer
Blueboy Sguiggley – Production Assistant
Seth McDonald – Production Assistant
Chris Duerkopp – Steadicam Operator
Craig Nisperos – Still Photographer
Austin Santiago – Location Services
Ben Haggerty – Story Supervisor
Sahwn Anderson – Transportation Coordinator
Nic Adenau – Additional Footage

Special Thanks To:
Tina Tsiakalis @ Eastlake Center For Birth - http://centerforbirth.com/
Greg Turk & Ray Nutter @ All Pilgrims Church - http://www.allpilgrims.org/
The Parry Family & The Kimmerer Family
Miles Johnson @ Fiori Floral Design - http://www.fiorifloraldesign.com/
Meadowbrook Community Center -http://www.seattle.gov/parks/centers/meadowbrookcc.htm
Kelly Warner-King 
Kristie Gamer and Alvin Stillwell

And a VERY special thank you to Kerri Harrop (Music for Marriage) for her hard work and dedication in the fight for marriage equality and her devoted support to Same Love as an idea, song, and finally now as a music video. “Same Love” and the campaign to approve Ref 74 wouldn’t be the same without you, Kerri. 

SONG:
Macklemore & Ryan Lewis
Same Love feat. Mary Lambert
(B. Haggerty, R. Lewis, M. Lambert)
Macklemore Publishing BMI, Ryan Lewis Publishing BMI
Produced by Ryan Lewis for Macklemore DBA Ryan Lewis LLC
Written by Macklemore, Mary Lambert
Piano performed by Josh Rawlings
Violin by Andrew Joslyn
Cello by Natalie Hall
Trombone by Greg Kramer
Recorded and Mixed by Ryan Lewis, Ben Haggerty
Macklemore/RyanLewis Studios, Seattle, WA
Mastered by Sterling Sound, New York City, NY

Macklemore & Ryan Lewis managed by Zach Quillen

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[VIDEO] Legalize Love: “CinderFella” by Todrick Hall

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Being creative and making a statement that catches the attention of over 600,000 people, is one hell of an accomplishment; This video most certainly deserves it. Not only is it entertaining, well thought out, but also represents how all of us as children have dreams of one day finding love and should have the right to share that, no matter what our differences are.

YouTube:

Published on Jul 24, 2012 by 

Please subscribe to my main YouTube channel:http://youtube.com/todrickhall 

I wanted to tell this famous fairy tale in a new and innovative way, combining familiar top 40′s songs with classic Disney melodies. This story speaks volumes and I think that love is as classic as this fairy tale. It’s time for us to legalize love in all shapes and colors. Please support this movement by posting this on your social media sites. 

Special Thanks to:
Camarillo Ranch
Valentino’s Costume Shop
Enchanted Carriages
James Alsop
DanceOn

@colinhduffy, www.colinhduffy.com, colinhduffy.tumblr.com, www.dastolidigital.com

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Thursday 4Play: Chick-Fil-Anti-Gay

While I’m sure many of you are sick of hearing about Chick-Fil-A, I’m not. So, there are a couple extra photos…

We always regret the injustices of our past.

The Real Reason We Should Be Boycotting Chick-Fil-A

There have been many differing views when it comes to the Chick-Fil-A controversy, the statements made by Dan Cathy and the financial support he gives to anti-gay organizations. For me, I could care less about what he has said or what he believes. In fact, I respect his opposing viewpoint, I just don’t agree with hatred that has been ignited by religion. The problem that I have with supporting Chick-Fil-A is that it not only means we’re keeping them in business, but giving money to groups that I find disgusting, immoral and based on pure hate.

Their money has been used in an attempt to fight for Ugandan’s government’s right to kill people who are found out to be gay?!?! This is murder; Murder because of who they, we, are. Chick-Fil-A supports and provides finances to organizations that would like to see gay people killed, not just deny them the right to marry who they love. This is sick. For anyone who thinks that supporting them because of Dan Cathy’s right to freedom of speech or because of their religious ties, I would be ashamed if I were you. Wanting to deny someone something is one thing (albeit, pretty fucked up), but wanting them dead is absolutely absurd.

Chick-Fil-A’s corporate “charity” arm WinShape has donated millions of dollars to groups like Family Research Council. FRC doesn’t just oppose marriage equality, they really do HATE gays. Its president Tony Perkins has said of LGBT people:

“They are intolerant. They are hateful. They are vile. They are spiteful…pawns of the enemy.”

And in 2010 Tony Perkins’ Family Research Council claimed in federal forms they had spent $25,000 to lobby Congress on “CIVH.Res.1064Ugandan Resolution Pro-homosexual promotion.” This proposed Congressional resolution condemned the Ugandan government‘s legislative efforts to make “homosexuality” an offense punishable by death.

How can anyone oppose condemning that? But Family Research Council apparently did.
And Family Research Council gets money from Chick-Fil-A. Joe Jervis was the first to break this story, more details can be found here.

Before you support and boycott someone, something, please be sure to get all the facts. Again, Dan Cathy can speak about his beliefs all he wants, but my money will NOT be used in an effort to allow people to be murdered based on who they are and who they love. My fiancée is the greatest thing that has ever happened to me and I will fight for our rights as long as I possibly can. If I ever thought that she or I could be murdered because of this love we share, I could only hope that someone, everyone would be willing to stop eating the damn chicken and stop supplying these groups the money they need to even put up a fight.

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[VIDEO] Chick-Fil-A Lover Speaks Eloquently About The Controversial Situation And How She No Longer Supports Them

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JacksonAPearce (YouTube handle) wrote:

The long and short of it– on 8/1 (the day Mike Huckabee wants Chick-Fil-A supporters to patronize the restaurant) go to Chick-Fil-A. Ask for a large water and nothing else. See if they adhere to Proverbs 25:21 and give it to you. If they do, yay! You took a few cents from their hate fund! If they don’t, well…I guess they’re proving their principals aren’t so “biblical.”
If you’re in, pass the word on, please. #Proverbs2521

Also, while I consider myself well-versed in the Bible, Bradley Hartman saved me EPIC AMOUNTS OF TIME by writing a very awesome open letter to Chick-Fil-A that helped me locate these passages. Many thanks.

With everything being said from both sides, I feel this was very well said. Do the right thing and don’t let Chick-Fil-A encourage hate and homophobia.

This YouTube user also had this to say:

My books:
http://www.amazon.com/Jackson-Pearce/e/B002BM3CDC/ref=sr_tc_ep?qid=1341157647

A REALLY DELICIOUS make at home Chick-Fil-A recipe (called the Chick-Fil-Gay!):

 

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[VIDEO] Anti-Gay Chick-Fil-A Needs To Cluck Off

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FCKH8.com has released a video that is encouraging people to take a stand against the homophobic Chick-Fil-A, yet, are worried it may get removed.

Yesterday FCKH8.com received a legal notice from Facebook saying that the Chick-Fil-A legal team has forced them to pull this protest video from Facebook because it used their logo. Use of a copyrighted logo in criticism, commentary, review or news is legally protected free speech. Chick-Fil-A is trying silence protests of their homophobic positions. They may try to get this video pulled from YouTube and Vimeo as well. Share it on Facebook or copy it (from our Vimeo page) & reupload the video to your YouTube or Vimeo account.

This chain has openly encouraged homophobia and refused to acknowledge that their beliefs are outdated and reminiscent of the 1960′s. Boston, Massachusetts Mayor, Tom Menino, has even banned the restaurant from their city to show how they will not support this message of hate. Another big proponent to come out and publicly shame Chick-Fil-A has been the Jim Henson Company, by no longer partnering The Muppets with the gay hating, religious loving, fast food chain.

American Family Association‘s Bryan Fischer is the man who is standing up in support of Chick-Fil-A and their right to discriminate or belittle the homosexual community.

“The bullies at Big Gay have targeted the ‘Eat Mor Chikin‘ chain because its president, Dan Cathy, has taken an unapologetic public stand on behalf of natural marriage, and rebuked this generation for its “arrogance” in thinking that it knows better than God when it comes to the definition of marriage,” Fischer wrote. “And so the heterophobic bigots at Big Gay have come unhinged and unleashed the dogs of war.”

 

War? I’m not the one going into OTHER countries and forcing democracy and taking what’s not mine. I am simply asked to be treated as a decent human being who will not be judged based on their sexuality. I don’t want someone with money, influence and power to take advantage and sway others into fucking logic and being ignorant. In the bible there are many ways which show what “natural marriage” is and I can guarantee that we do not live our lives like that today. Jon Stewart read out some bible versus the other night on ‘The Daily Show‘ that I thought were perfect examples:

 

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A Father, a Son and a Fighting Chance: One Father Speaks of his Love for his Son and Their Journey

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By DOMINICK ZARRILLO
Published: June 14, 2012

The New York Times:

WHEN my son Jeff was little, he was a pain in the neck about eating. On one drive to Huntsville, Ala., he sobbed for 70 minutes (I know because I timed it) about how we were starving him to death.

We stopped at a diner and ordered him a meal, and he proceeded to eat about four bites before claiming he was full.

You might think I would lose my temper, but this had happened before, so I was prepared with a well-planned response. I reached over and started eating his food. Bite by bite, I finished everything on his plate, figuring that would teach him to mind his dinner.

Unfortunately, the plan had a different effect. Everywhere we went after that, Jeff expected me to finish his meals. It got so I would only order him meals I liked, knowing how it would go.

And at home, forget about it. I was a workaholic back then, two jobs, out of the house at dawn and not back until 8 or 9. A lot of those nights, Jeff wouldn’t eat his dinner. His mother would get so angry, but what could she do? How do you force someone to eat? The best she could do was the tried-and-true route, telling him that if he didn’t eat dinner, he wouldn’t get dessert.

I would walk into his room when I got home, and he would be lying there, wishing he had eaten dinner so he could have a snack before bed.

“You hungry?” I would whisper, and he would nod, big eyes gleaming in the light from the hall. I would sneak him something, our little secret. Sometimes we would eat it together.

When Jeff was in middle school, my wife noticed he was getting home late from school, sometimes a little dusted up. It turned out some neighborhood boys were picking on him, waiting for him along the path they all took, making his life miserable. It made me furious, probably because I felt guilty for working so much and not being around to protect him.

People didn’t make a big deal out of bullying back then the way they do now, but I had to do something. Jeff was a small, sweet child who never hurt anyone. He just wanted to take the path home and feel safe doing it, but these kids kept singling him out.

I went to see the ringleader’s father. He was a big man in town, a city planner. When I got there, he made me stand out on the porch as if I were trying to sell him something. I told him the story, and he looked agitated and said: “When I was young, this never would have happened. We had some pride. We fought our own battles.”

I told him a one-on-one fight would be fine, but it wasn’t one on one. His son was fronting a gang of bullies, taking away my son’s right to come home happy and safe.

“Five against one?” I asked him. “Is that something to be proud of?”

He grumbled and shut the door in my face.

When I was young, my uncle said to me: “You’re small and you’re Italian, so it’s going to be tough. You can either blend in or fight. Trust me, it’s better to blend.”

The first time I walked onto a Navy ship (at 17 years old and 130 pounds), someone yelled out, “Another wop?”

I smiled and said, “Yep,” and kept smiling no matter what else they said.

My uncle was right; I got along fine. I told Jeff that story, and asked him to get along the best he could.

After Jeff finished college, we would travel cross-country from New Jersey to visit him in California. A few times we would run into his best friend, Paul, whom we liked a lot.

Jeff would fly to visit us, too, and when I would take him back to the airport, I would sit with him until his flight boarded, just the two of us. Every time, I could tell there was something he wasn’t saying, something knotted in his belly.

Finally, he sat us down and said he had something to tell us. We told him that we already knew, and that we really liked Paul, and that we were happy for him. We laughed about how scared he had been to tell us, and after that it was Jeff and Paul, Paul and Jeff. We visited them; they visited us. We took vacations together.

A couple of times the subject of grandchildren came up, and they always said the same thing: they wanted to marry first, and they wanted it to be legal. Jeff wanted a family, a home, like the one he grew up in, and part of that was being married like his parents.

My wife and I went to dinner one night with another couple, some people we knew pretty well, and the subject of Jeff and Paul came up. The guy said: “I don’t believe in gay marriage. I think it’s wrong.”

That’s all he said, but I almost lost my mind. I wanted to smash my dinner plate in his face. My vision dimmed while long-buried emotions rushed back: my little son, all alone, being picked on by bullies, being told he couldn’t walk the same path home because they said so.

Why couldn’t people just treat him with respect? I’m sure this guy isn’t a bad person, and no one would consider him a creep or a bully, but I stood up and left that table and have not spoken to him since.

For our next trip with Jeff and Paul, we went to Hawaii. The boys talked my wife and me into taking a long boat ride in a little rubber dingy. I was dubious from the start, and rightly so.

The weather turned ugly and the waves got huge, three times higher than the boat. We all thought we were going to capsize. I held my wife’s hand, drawing on the strength of our love and our years together, knowing no matter what happened it would be O.K. because we were together. Across the boat, I saw Jeff holding Paul’s hand in exactly the same way.

That night at dinner, we laughed and drank too much and toasted our narrow escape. At one point Jeff’s face was pure happiness as he looked at Paul sitting next to him. Paul wasn’t returning the look, though; his eyes were focused downward to where he was quietly, carefully finishing Jeff’s dinner.

I realized then that I was crying instead of laughing. I couldn’t explain it except to say there is nothing more overwhelming than seeing your child experience true love.

Not every day will be that happy. Paul and Jeff want to marry and have a family, yet they know there will be more bullying, more ganging up against them, in their effort to seek that. There will be more groups of people telling Jeff that he shouldn’t be allowed to marry the person he loves, that it would be wrong for the two of them to have a family together.

ONE of the worst days in my son’s life was in November 2008, when a majority of Californians voted in favor of Proposition 8, a ballot measure to change California law in a way that bans marriage for same-sex couples. None of us could believe something like that would pass in California. When it did, I wondered if Jeff and Paul would move from the place they loved and had called home for so long.

They didn’t, though. Nor did they accept the new law and try to blend in as I told Jeff to do all those years ago. Instead, they did something that’s made me as proud as I’ve ever been: they fought back.

Jeff and Paul and two women challenged the law in court, and in a landmark decision two years later, they won: Proposition 8 was declared unconstitutional by a judge in San Francisco. The proponents of Proposition 8 appealed, and Jeff and Paul won that, too.

The United States Court of Appeals recently declined to take up the case before a larger panel, which opened the door for it to head to the Supreme Court. Meanwhile, Jeff and Paul still can’t legally marry.

As this Father’s Day approached, all I could think about was how much I want my son to experience the joys of being a father, how much I want him to marry the person he loves and to raise a family.

For now, he is still waiting, and fighting. I see how much the struggle costs him, how discouraging it is that despite his strength and patience and faith in the system, the ultimate decision rests in the hands of those who have yet to act.

One day soon, though, the powers that be are going to do the right thing. I’m his father, and it’s Father’s Day, so let me believe it. One day soon they’re going to let my brave, beautiful boy walk the same path we all get to take home.

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[AUDIO] North Carolina Pastor Sean Harris: Parents Should ‘Punch’ Their Gay-Acting Children

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Clip provided by:  Jeremy Hooper of the blog Good as You

I am disgusted by this man, the people who can be heard saying “Amen!” and frankly, anyone who views feminine boys and masculine girls as flawed and in need of abuse to stop them from behaving how they have naturally developed.

Sean Harris, senior pastor of Berean Baptist Church in Fayettesville, NC, made this anti-gay speech to his congregation and it has since made its way to the ears of many. As someone who’s representing ‘God‘ and suppose to instill good morals within those he preaches too, you’d think he’d be less ignorant, hateful, cruel, belittling and the list could go on and on.

The reason this issue was even something he chose to speak about is because he supports North Carolina’s proposed Amendment 1, which would outlaw same-sex marriage. I hope that this ridiculous audio recording will hope voters see why they shouldn’t support Amendment 1 and instead allow homosexuals, like myself, the right to be able and choose if we’d like to get married. If we were to preach such hateful things about this man and his congregation and try to stop them from getting married, all hell would raise. Ironically, he’s the one who says things I could never say to someone: beat your children if they act in a way that strays from the original idea of how boys and girls should act.

Notes Harris:

“So your little son starts to act a little girlish when he is four years old and instead of squashing that like a cockroach and saying, ‘Man up, son, get that dress off you and get outside and dig a ditch, because that is what boys do,’ you get out the camera and you start taking pictures of Johnny acting like a female and then you upload it to YouTube and everybody laughs about it and the next thing you know, this dude, this kid is acting out childhood fantasies that should have been squashed.

Dads, the second you see your son dropping the limp wrist, you walk over there and crack that wrist. Man up. Give him a good punch. Ok? You are not going to act like that. You were made by God to be a male and you are going to be a male. And when your daughter starts acting too butch, you reign her in. And you say, ‘Oh, no, sweetheart. You can play sports. Play them to the glory of God. But sometimes you are going to act like a girl and walk like a girl and talk like a girl and smell like a girl and that means you are going to be beautiful. You are going to be attractive. You are going to dress yourself up.’”

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[VIDEO] “8″: A Play about the Fight for Marriage Equality

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I wish I could have been here to watch this play LIVE, but fortunately I am able to see it online and share it with all of you.

YouTube:

Streamed live on Mar 3, 2012 by 

Featuring an all-star cast including George Clooney, Brad Pitt, Martin Sheen, Jamie Lee Curtis, Jane Lynch, Kevin Bacon and others, “8″ is a play written by Academy Award winning screenwriter Dustin Lance Black and directed by acclaimed actor and director Rob Reiner. It is a powerful account of the case filed by the American Federation for Equal Rights (AFER ) in the U.S. District Court in 2010 to overturn Proposition 8 [LINK], a constitutional amendment that eliminated the rights of same-sex couples to marry in the state of California. Framed around the trial’s historic closing arguments in June 2010, 8 provides an intimate look what unfolded when the issue of same-sex marriage was on trial.

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