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[VIDEO] Straight Christian Man Who Believes Homosexuality is Sin Goes Undercover as Gay Man For a Year


Timothy Kurek, 26, is a brave and righteous man because of what he did, all on his own. This straight Christian man was told by a friend of his that she was a lesbian;  Thanks to that moment, he started to realize that he may not be right about his homophobia or his religious stance on being gay.

He took himself on a year-long journey where he ‘came out’ to friends and family, despite the fact that he was not actually gay. Although he told his mom and heard her reaction, he wanted to know how she really felt, and got his answer after reading some of her journal. (which is sneaky, not wrong, according to the 10 commandments)

‘I’d rather have found out from a doctor that I had terminal cancer than have a gay son,’ she’d written.

Ironically, this is what he should have expected, seeing as he grew up in this household, where this was what being gay meant, utter disappointment and disbelief. For him, he was able to overcome his fear and hatred to learn a valuable lesson in life.

The Cross in the Closet, the book that Kurek wrote, is being released today, National Coming Out Day. A percent of all the sales will go to an organization that helps homeless LGBT youth, which shows the transformation that has come from his year undercover.

The young journalist even went so far as to ask a man to be his pretend boyfriend. Shawn was a ’big, black burly teddy bear’ and Kurek was able to confide in him and even care about this man, his new friend.

‘I needed protection to keep me balanced and teach me the nuances of gay culture and how they flirt, and to give me an excuse when guys hit on me,’ he said.

[He was] ’the first gay person that I let into my heart. He was totally there for me through emotional turmoil. I trusted him.

Before Kurek embarked on this journey he said that the idea of even being around gay people repulsed him. After the journey, he said there is no lingering homophobia once so ever.

Sadly, Kurek wasn’t quite ready for the loneliness he felt and the sheer abandonment of those he loved.

‘The thing that struck me most was the isolation,’ he said. ‘Before I came out as gay, I had a very busy social life. After I came out, I didn’t hear from 95 percent of my friends.’

DailyMail: Rev. Connie Waters, a protestant minister and supporter of LGBT rights from Memphis, first met Kurek online while debating his church’s stance on homosexuality.

She called his year undercover a life-changing transformation.

‘It’s what you hope for – the goal of the Christian walk of faith,’ she said. ‘It’s enough for me that he transformed, but if others learn from him, what an extra blessing that is.’


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‘Boy Scouts: Don’t let your anti-gay policy deny my son his Eagle award’


A friend of mine brought this story to my attention and asked that I share it with all of you. Obviously, the mistreatment of homosexuals is something that I am particularly interested in changing, and this mother’s plea is rather touching. Ryan’s mother, Karen Andresen, is looking for people to help her son acquire his Eagle award, which he has earned. Below is Mrs. Andersen’s letter and a link to sign the petition. Please read and I urge you to help this young man by showing him the compassion of his peers is stronger than the hate of those who disagree with who he is.

My son Ryan needs your help.

Ryan joined the Boy Scouts when he was just six years old, and since then, he’s dreamed of earning his Eagle award — the highest rank in the Boy Scouts.

Ryan is now a senior in high school, and just completed the final requirements to earn his Eagle Award. He’s an honor student with great SAT scores, who’s hoping to attend the University of San FranciscoBut because he recently came out to his friends and family as gay, leaders from our local Boy Scout troop say they won’t approve his Eagle award.

A Boy Scout gets his Eagle by earning many badges, completing all lower Scout rank requirements, and carrying out an approved final project. So Ryan decided to build a “Tolerance Wall” for his school, to show bully victims — like Ryan — that they are not alone. Ryan worked countless hours with elementary students to amass a wall of 288 unique tiles, all illustrating acts of kindness.

But when leadership in Troop 212 (San Francisco Bay Area) found out that Ryan was gay, the Scoutmaster said he refused to sign the official paperwork designating Ryan as an Eagle Scout, despite the fact that Ryan completed all of the requirements.

Many troops around the country are standing up, choosing to reject the Boy Scouts’ discriminatory policy. I sincerely hope that Ryan’s troop will become one of them. And with your help, they just might.

It hurts me so much to watch Ryan suffer for being who he is, because to me, he’s perfect. Ryan has worked for nearly 12 years to become an Eagle Scout, and nothing would make him more proud than earning that well-deserved distinction. I hope that if enough people come together, we can convince my son’s troop leaders to help him feel proud of who he is and all he’s accomplished.

Citizenship in the Community,” a merit badge earned, means standing up for what is right, and I am proud of Ryan for doing just that. Will you stand with him too, and join this campaign?

Petition Letter

I’m urging leaders from Troop 212 to reject the Boy Scouts of America’s discriminatory anti-gay policy and to give Ryan Andresen the Eagle award he’s earned.

Ryan joined the Boy Scouts when he was just six years old, and since then, he’s dreamed of earning his Eagle award — the highest rank in the Boy Scouts.

Ryan is now a senior in high school, and just completed the final requirements to earn his Eagle Award. He’s an honor student with great SAT scores, who’s hoping to attend the University of San Francisco. But because he recently came out to his friends and family as gay, leaders from your troop say they won’t approve his Eagle award.

This is unfair and wrong.

A Scout earns his Eagle by earning many badges, completing all lower Scout rank requirements, and carrying out an approved final project. So Ryan decided to build a “Tolerance Wall” for his school, to show bully victims — like Ryan — that they are not alone. Ryan worked countless hours with elementary students to amass a wall of 288 unique tiles, all illustrating acts of kindness.

Many troops around the country are standing up, choosing to reject the Boy Scouts’ discriminatory policy. I sincerely hope that Ryan’s troop — Troop 212 — will become one of them.

“Citizenship in the Community,” a merit badge earned, means standing up for what is right, and I am proud of Ryan for doing just that. Will you stand with him, too?


[Your name]

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Thursday 4Play: Chick-Fil-Anti-Gay

While I’m sure many of you are sick of hearing about Chick-Fil-A, I’m not. So, there are a couple extra photos…

We always regret the injustices of our past.

The Real Reason We Should Be Boycotting Chick-Fil-A

There have been many differing views when it comes to the Chick-Fil-A controversy, the statements made by Dan Cathy and the financial support he gives to anti-gay organizations. For me, I could care less about what he has said or what he believes. In fact, I respect his opposing viewpoint, I just don’t agree with hatred that has been ignited by religion. The problem that I have with supporting Chick-Fil-A is that it not only means we’re keeping them in business, but giving money to groups that I find disgusting, immoral and based on pure hate.

Their money has been used in an attempt to fight for Ugandan’s government’s right to kill people who are found out to be gay?!?! This is murder; Murder because of who they, we, are. Chick-Fil-A supports and provides finances to organizations that would like to see gay people killed, not just deny them the right to marry who they love. This is sick. For anyone who thinks that supporting them because of Dan Cathy’s right to freedom of speech or because of their religious ties, I would be ashamed if I were you. Wanting to deny someone something is one thing (albeit, pretty fucked up), but wanting them dead is absolutely absurd.

Chick-Fil-A’s corporate “charity” arm WinShape has donated millions of dollars to groups like Family Research Council. FRC doesn’t just oppose marriage equality, they really do HATE gays. Its president Tony Perkins has said of LGBT people:

“They are intolerant. They are hateful. They are vile. They are spiteful…pawns of the enemy.”

And in 2010 Tony Perkins’ Family Research Council claimed in federal forms they had spent $25,000 to lobby Congress on “CIVH.Res.1064Ugandan Resolution Pro-homosexual promotion.” This proposed Congressional resolution condemned the Ugandan government‘s legislative efforts to make “homosexuality” an offense punishable by death.

How can anyone oppose condemning that? But Family Research Council apparently did.
And Family Research Council gets money from Chick-Fil-A. Joe Jervis was the first to break this story, more details can be found here.

Before you support and boycott someone, something, please be sure to get all the facts. Again, Dan Cathy can speak about his beliefs all he wants, but my money will NOT be used in an effort to allow people to be murdered based on who they are and who they love. My fiancée is the greatest thing that has ever happened to me and I will fight for our rights as long as I possibly can. If I ever thought that she or I could be murdered because of this love we share, I could only hope that someone, everyone would be willing to stop eating the damn chicken and stop supplying these groups the money they need to even put up a fight.


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[VIDEO] Chick-Fil-A Lover Speaks Eloquently About The Controversial Situation And How She No Longer Supports Them

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JacksonAPearce (YouTube handle) wrote:

The long and short of it– on 8/1 (the day Mike Huckabee wants Chick-Fil-A supporters to patronize the restaurant) go to Chick-Fil-A. Ask for a large water and nothing else. See if they adhere to Proverbs 25:21 and give it to you. If they do, yay! You took a few cents from their hate fund! If they don’t, well…I guess they’re proving their principals aren’t so “biblical.”
If you’re in, pass the word on, please. #Proverbs2521

Also, while I consider myself well-versed in the Bible, Bradley Hartman saved me EPIC AMOUNTS OF TIME by writing a very awesome open letter to Chick-Fil-A that helped me locate these passages. Many thanks.

With everything being said from both sides, I feel this was very well said. Do the right thing and don’t let Chick-Fil-A encourage hate and homophobia.

This YouTube user also had this to say:

My books:

A REALLY DELICIOUS make at home Chick-Fil-A recipe (called the Chick-Fil-Gay!):


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[VIDEO] Anti-Gay Chick-Fil-A Needs To Cluck Off


FCKH8.com has released a video that is encouraging people to take a stand against the homophobic Chick-Fil-A, yet, are worried it may get removed.

Yesterday FCKH8.com received a legal notice from Facebook saying that the Chick-Fil-A legal team has forced them to pull this protest video from Facebook because it used their logo. Use of a copyrighted logo in criticism, commentary, review or news is legally protected free speech. Chick-Fil-A is trying silence protests of their homophobic positions. They may try to get this video pulled from YouTube and Vimeo as well. Share it on Facebook or copy it (from our Vimeo page) & reupload the video to your YouTube or Vimeo account.

This chain has openly encouraged homophobia and refused to acknowledge that their beliefs are outdated and reminiscent of the 1960′s. Boston, Massachusetts Mayor, Tom Menino, has even banned the restaurant from their city to show how they will not support this message of hate. Another big proponent to come out and publicly shame Chick-Fil-A has been the Jim Henson Company, by no longer partnering The Muppets with the gay hating, religious loving, fast food chain.

American Family Association‘s Bryan Fischer is the man who is standing up in support of Chick-Fil-A and their right to discriminate or belittle the homosexual community.

“The bullies at Big Gay have targeted the ‘Eat Mor Chikin‘ chain because its president, Dan Cathy, has taken an unapologetic public stand on behalf of natural marriage, and rebuked this generation for its “arrogance” in thinking that it knows better than God when it comes to the definition of marriage,” Fischer wrote. “And so the heterophobic bigots at Big Gay have come unhinged and unleashed the dogs of war.”


War? I’m not the one going into OTHER countries and forcing democracy and taking what’s not mine. I am simply asked to be treated as a decent human being who will not be judged based on their sexuality. I don’t want someone with money, influence and power to take advantage and sway others into fucking logic and being ignorant. In the bible there are many ways which show what “natural marriage” is and I can guarantee that we do not live our lives like that today. Jon Stewart read out some bible versus the other night on ‘The Daily Show‘ that I thought were perfect examples:


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A Father, a Son and a Fighting Chance: One Father Speaks of his Love for his Son and Their Journey

Published: June 14, 2012

The New York Times:

WHEN my son Jeff was little, he was a pain in the neck about eating. On one drive to Huntsville, Ala., he sobbed for 70 minutes (I know because I timed it) about how we were starving him to death.

We stopped at a diner and ordered him a meal, and he proceeded to eat about four bites before claiming he was full.

You might think I would lose my temper, but this had happened before, so I was prepared with a well-planned response. I reached over and started eating his food. Bite by bite, I finished everything on his plate, figuring that would teach him to mind his dinner.

Unfortunately, the plan had a different effect. Everywhere we went after that, Jeff expected me to finish his meals. It got so I would only order him meals I liked, knowing how it would go.

And at home, forget about it. I was a workaholic back then, two jobs, out of the house at dawn and not back until 8 or 9. A lot of those nights, Jeff wouldn’t eat his dinner. His mother would get so angry, but what could she do? How do you force someone to eat? The best she could do was the tried-and-true route, telling him that if he didn’t eat dinner, he wouldn’t get dessert.

I would walk into his room when I got home, and he would be lying there, wishing he had eaten dinner so he could have a snack before bed.

“You hungry?” I would whisper, and he would nod, big eyes gleaming in the light from the hall. I would sneak him something, our little secret. Sometimes we would eat it together.

When Jeff was in middle school, my wife noticed he was getting home late from school, sometimes a little dusted up. It turned out some neighborhood boys were picking on him, waiting for him along the path they all took, making his life miserable. It made me furious, probably because I felt guilty for working so much and not being around to protect him.

People didn’t make a big deal out of bullying back then the way they do now, but I had to do something. Jeff was a small, sweet child who never hurt anyone. He just wanted to take the path home and feel safe doing it, but these kids kept singling him out.

I went to see the ringleader’s father. He was a big man in town, a city planner. When I got there, he made me stand out on the porch as if I were trying to sell him something. I told him the story, and he looked agitated and said: “When I was young, this never would have happened. We had some pride. We fought our own battles.”

I told him a one-on-one fight would be fine, but it wasn’t one on one. His son was fronting a gang of bullies, taking away my son’s right to come home happy and safe.

“Five against one?” I asked him. “Is that something to be proud of?”

He grumbled and shut the door in my face.

When I was young, my uncle said to me: “You’re small and you’re Italian, so it’s going to be tough. You can either blend in or fight. Trust me, it’s better to blend.”

The first time I walked onto a Navy ship (at 17 years old and 130 pounds), someone yelled out, “Another wop?”

I smiled and said, “Yep,” and kept smiling no matter what else they said.

My uncle was right; I got along fine. I told Jeff that story, and asked him to get along the best he could.

After Jeff finished college, we would travel cross-country from New Jersey to visit him in California. A few times we would run into his best friend, Paul, whom we liked a lot.

Jeff would fly to visit us, too, and when I would take him back to the airport, I would sit with him until his flight boarded, just the two of us. Every time, I could tell there was something he wasn’t saying, something knotted in his belly.

Finally, he sat us down and said he had something to tell us. We told him that we already knew, and that we really liked Paul, and that we were happy for him. We laughed about how scared he had been to tell us, and after that it was Jeff and Paul, Paul and Jeff. We visited them; they visited us. We took vacations together.

A couple of times the subject of grandchildren came up, and they always said the same thing: they wanted to marry first, and they wanted it to be legal. Jeff wanted a family, a home, like the one he grew up in, and part of that was being married like his parents.

My wife and I went to dinner one night with another couple, some people we knew pretty well, and the subject of Jeff and Paul came up. The guy said: “I don’t believe in gay marriage. I think it’s wrong.”

That’s all he said, but I almost lost my mind. I wanted to smash my dinner plate in his face. My vision dimmed while long-buried emotions rushed back: my little son, all alone, being picked on by bullies, being told he couldn’t walk the same path home because they said so.

Why couldn’t people just treat him with respect? I’m sure this guy isn’t a bad person, and no one would consider him a creep or a bully, but I stood up and left that table and have not spoken to him since.

For our next trip with Jeff and Paul, we went to Hawaii. The boys talked my wife and me into taking a long boat ride in a little rubber dingy. I was dubious from the start, and rightly so.

The weather turned ugly and the waves got huge, three times higher than the boat. We all thought we were going to capsize. I held my wife’s hand, drawing on the strength of our love and our years together, knowing no matter what happened it would be O.K. because we were together. Across the boat, I saw Jeff holding Paul’s hand in exactly the same way.

That night at dinner, we laughed and drank too much and toasted our narrow escape. At one point Jeff’s face was pure happiness as he looked at Paul sitting next to him. Paul wasn’t returning the look, though; his eyes were focused downward to where he was quietly, carefully finishing Jeff’s dinner.

I realized then that I was crying instead of laughing. I couldn’t explain it except to say there is nothing more overwhelming than seeing your child experience true love.

Not every day will be that happy. Paul and Jeff want to marry and have a family, yet they know there will be more bullying, more ganging up against them, in their effort to seek that. There will be more groups of people telling Jeff that he shouldn’t be allowed to marry the person he loves, that it would be wrong for the two of them to have a family together.

ONE of the worst days in my son’s life was in November 2008, when a majority of Californians voted in favor of Proposition 8, a ballot measure to change California law in a way that bans marriage for same-sex couples. None of us could believe something like that would pass in California. When it did, I wondered if Jeff and Paul would move from the place they loved and had called home for so long.

They didn’t, though. Nor did they accept the new law and try to blend in as I told Jeff to do all those years ago. Instead, they did something that’s made me as proud as I’ve ever been: they fought back.

Jeff and Paul and two women challenged the law in court, and in a landmark decision two years later, they won: Proposition 8 was declared unconstitutional by a judge in San Francisco. The proponents of Proposition 8 appealed, and Jeff and Paul won that, too.

The United States Court of Appeals recently declined to take up the case before a larger panel, which opened the door for it to head to the Supreme Court. Meanwhile, Jeff and Paul still can’t legally marry.

As this Father’s Day approached, all I could think about was how much I want my son to experience the joys of being a father, how much I want him to marry the person he loves and to raise a family.

For now, he is still waiting, and fighting. I see how much the struggle costs him, how discouraging it is that despite his strength and patience and faith in the system, the ultimate decision rests in the hands of those who have yet to act.

One day soon, though, the powers that be are going to do the right thing. I’m his father, and it’s Father’s Day, so let me believe it. One day soon they’re going to let my brave, beautiful boy walk the same path we all get to take home.

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[VIDEO] Pastor Condemns ‘lesbians and queers’ in Sermon Saying They ‘should be put in electrified pen to let them die off’


I am absolutely disgusted by this two-minute video and feel sick after hearing how he spoke about the homosexual community. Pastor Charles Worley, 71, decided it would be great to preach hate on Mother’s Day at Providence Road Baptist Church in North Carolina. Sadly, this Pastor who is supposed to preach about God‘s love for his children (all children) has condemned homosexuals for a very long time. A local television station was able to find a video from 1978 where his views seemed to be the same they are now.

‘We’re living in a day, when you know what, it saddens my heart to think homosexuals can go around – Bless God – and get the applause of a lot of people. Lesbians and all the rest of it – Bless God – 40 years ago they would have hung them – Bless God – from a white oak tree. Wouldn’t they? Amen. Sure they would,’ Mr Worley says on the previous recording.

Not only am I tired of hearing people judge me based on how they interpreted the Bible, but I’m fed up with us just sitting back and waiting for people to understand that we are harmless and would just like to love who we choose to love. This has nothing to do with politics or any “gay agenda“; I have enough shit going on in my life, I don’t need to be conspiring with the all the other gays about how we can ‘turn’ the rest of you breeders. Come on, how fucking ridiculous does that sound?! To me, it sounds just as stupid as believing in the Easter Bunny… He doesn’t exist, and neither does any agenda. Besides, if that was our ultimate goal, we would subsequently be condemning the human race to not exist because we’re very aware of how the reproductive system works :)

Also, it was hard enough to hear this man speak on something he knows NOTHING about, but hearing the cheers and ‘amens’ after what he said, was heartbreaking. I cannot believe that many people support this man and his hate-filled sermon. You are in Church to learn about God, forgiveness, love, and everything else the Bible teaches to instill good moral values. Instead, you listen to a man who is stuck in his ways, and has been since the 70′s (outdated), and ignore the lessons taught by the Bible. Who is more important to you: Pastor Charles Worley or God?

And here is what some of his congregation thinks (no wonder North Carolina is so screwed up, people like this live there):



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Finally! Study Confirms Homophobes Are Actually Damaged, Closeted Homosexuals


Researchers from the University of Rochester, the University of Essex, England, and the University of California Santa Barbara have published the results of a study confirming that homophobes are actually deeply closeted homosexuals themselves. This is something that almost any gay person would agree with, and now that the research has been done, I’m happy to admit that I was right. <—always happy to admit this :)

Homophobia is more pronounced in individuals with an unacknowledged attraction to the same sex and who grew up with authoritarian parents who forbade such desires, a series of psychology studies demonstrates.

“Individuals who identify as straight but in psychological tests show a strong attraction to the same sex may be threatened by gays and lesbians because homosexuals remind them of similar tendencies within themselves,” explains Netta Weinstein, a lecturer at the University of Essex and the study’s lead author.

“In many cases these are people who are at war with themselves and they are turning this internal conflict outward,” adds co-author Richard Ryan, professor of psychology at the University of Rochester who helped direct the research.

There were four different studies that were done and the entire report from ScienceDaily is actually rather revealing and interesting. Again, something that has been assumed by many for a while, but now we have science on our side to explain that this is the truth. While I should be happy, I’m actually rather disturbed by these findings. All this means is that people are so ashamed of who they are that they try to mask their identity by abusing those who have had a similar path but chose to accept who they were as opposed to hiding this. Damaged, closeted homosexuals hating those who were able to overcome hate and prejudice.


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Homophobia From Tosh.O Fans

Here are some screen shots of the ignorance that can spread within 20 minutes. Tosh. O recently posted Willam Belli, Detox ICunt and Vicky Vox’s video ‘Chow Down (at Chick-Fil-A)’ and has received many comments. Being a lesbian, I was very offended by some of these and thought I’d share with you some of the people who made these comments and what they had to say. Sadly, these are few of what will be posted in the next few hours I’m sure…

If you’d like to visit the post yourself and see these remarks, feel free to visit Tosh.O’s FaceBook Page (where I wrote my input) or on the actual Tosh.O Post (which I haven’t looked at myself)

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