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A Mother Discussing Her 7-Year-Old, Who Identifies Himself As Gay

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I couldn’t help but be moved by this mother’s insight into her son, aged 7, telling her he is gay. She, and her husband, handle this with such poise, I can’t help but think about how lucky his boy is to have such great parents. My hope is that someday, this is how each person will handle the sexual orientation of their children, because in all honesty, this is the right way despite what many people may think. During the civil rights movement, it took, and is still taking, years for people to understand that having a different skin color is NORMAL and shouldn’t be pointed out or rather, singled out. This too, will take many years, but this message from Amelia is a HUGE stepping stone, in my opinion.

Amelia’s writing on Huffington Post:

Considering that my son has a longstanding crush on Glee’s Blaine and regularly refers to him as “my boyfriend,” I thought there was a fair chance that he would someday say, “I’m gay.” But my kid is only 7 years old. I figured I had a few years before we crossed that threshold (if we ever did), probably when he was 14 or 15. I never thought it would happen this soon.

Six months ago “gay” wasn’t even a word in my son’s vocabulary. He has always known that some of our male friends are married to men and some of our female friends to women, and it is such a normal part of his life that he never needed a special word to describe them. When he did notice the word and asked what it meant, I told him that when boys want to marry boys and girls want to marry girls, we call that “gay.” He didn’t seem very interested and quickly went off to do something else more exciting than a vocabulary lesson with his mom.

Fast-forward a few months. I was on the phone with a relative who had just discovered that I was blogging on The Huffington Post and openly discussing my son’s crush on Blaine. I was in another room alone (I thought), explaining, “We’re not saying he’s straight, and we’re not saying he’s gay. We’re saying we love who he is,” when my son’s voice piped up behind me.

“Yes, I am,” he said.

“Am what, baby?” I asked.

“Gay. I’m gay.”

My world paused for a moment, and I saw the “geez, Mom, didn’t you know that already?” look on my son’s face.

I got off the phone and leaned down to eye level with him and rubbed my nose against his. “I love you so much.”

“I know,” he said, and ran off to play with his brothers.

Since that day, any time the word “gay” has come into conversation, he has happily announced to those around him, “I’m gay!” He says this very naturally and happily, the same way he announces other things that he likes about himself. Mention that a person is tall and he’ll quickly add, “I’m tall!” If he hears the word “Legos,” barely a second passes before he says, “Legos. I love Legos.” Saying “I’m gay” is his way of telling people: this is something I like about myself.

It’s amazing, but it’s also shocking. How many people have a 7-year-old come out to them? A lot of people don’t know how to react, and I don’t blame them. Before my son, I’d never met a child who came out this young — and we don’t know anyone else who has. The mere idea of children having a sexual orientation makes people uncomfortable. It’s something we don’t think about (or just don’t like to).

But here’s the thing: straight children have nothing to announce. Straight is the assumption. No one bats an eye at a little girl with a Justin Bieber poster in her bedroom, or when little girls love playing wedding with little boys every chance they get. If our sexual orientation is simply part of who we are, why wouldn’t it be there in our elementary years?

I’ve heard from countless adults who say they knew that they were gay as young as kindergarten but lacked the language to talk about it. And in most cases, they knew it was something wrong that they should hide. Because gay people are part of my son’s everyday life, he has the vocabulary, and it has never occurred to him there is anything wrong with it.

On one occasion after an “I’m gay” announcement, I watched my husband reach out to ruffle our son’s hair. “I know, buddy,” my husband said to him. “And you’re awesome, too.” That’s how we’re handling it. We want him to know we hear him, and that he’s wonderful. It feels like the right thing to do, and that’s all we have to go by. We don’t have any other examples.

We did take a few extra steps. Within a few days we had a quick talk with him about how some people don’t like it when people are gay, explaining that those people are wrong. If he hears anyone says anything about being gay like it is something bad, he is to run and get us immediately. We had a brief conversation with his teachers: Our son is identifying as gay. We don’t think there’s anything wrong with that or with him. And this is the only acceptable opinion on the subject. All his teachers, while surprised, were on board. We learned that he hasn’t used that word at school yet, so we’ll cross that bridge when the time comes.

I don’t think it will always be easy. We don’t know what to expect. At this point we aren’t looking for trouble, but at the same time we’re preparing for it. We know we have a journey ahead of us, just like everyone does. And this is one part of the story of our son and our family.

Do I think this is the last word on his orientation? I don’t know. He’s 7. Maybe as he gets older he’ll tell me something else, but it’s just as likely that he won’t. But really, that doesn’t even matter. What matters is right now. And right now I have a young son who happily announces “I’m gay.” And I’m so proud to be his mom.

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California’s Same-Sex Marriage Ban Has Been Ruled Unconstitutional!

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Today is a day to celebrate. The 3-judge panel of the US 9th Circuit Court Of Appeals has made the obvious decision that banning gays from getting married is unconstitutional. Although many of us already knew this, we were dreading the fact that the ‘YES On 8‘ campaign had taken it upon themselves to appeal the original ruling of being unconstitutional.

For more, there is a copy of the court’s decision here.

Santa Clara University constitutional law Professor Margaret M. Russell said the ruling overturned Proposition 8 on “the narrowest grounds possible,” which makes it less likely that the U.S. Supreme Court would review it.

The fact that it may not go to the Supreme Court is actually a good and bad thing. If it doesn’t make it to the Supreme Court then it may make it possible for gay Californians to get married sooner than later. On the other end of the spectrum though, I was hoping that it would be taken to the Supreme Court, because if there ruling was that it was unconstitutional, it would help to legalize gay marriage in every state in the United States. And for me, that is equality. When every state treats homosexuals with dignity and respect in the eyes of the law, that’s when we will have succeeded.

Either way, today is a day worth remembering and worth being excited about. One more ruling in our favor is just one step closer to a full victory.

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Christian Group Shows Up To Chicago Gay Pride Holding Apologetic Signs

UPDATED: Wednesday, March 27th @ 2:45pm – I don’t have anything more to add in regards to the story below, but I would liek to share a little bit about how I feel with the Supreme Court currently debating same-sex marriage. Being a lesbian, this is a pivotal time in history and I would like to see us receive the right to do what we want with whomever we want, because it in no way affects anyone but us. We are not benefiting from the institutions in place for legally married couples, and that is absolutely unfair and should not be legal in this country who constantly shares how “free” we are. In a showing of my support, I made this photo and would love for anyone and everyone to share :) The link to my FaceBook (where it can be easily shared) is HERE

"When I was a little girl and learnt about the Civil Rights Movement, I never thought I would one day be witnessing history that is seemingly so parallel. Along with it being historical for America, it's historical for me, personally. I hope that the court makes the decision to allow free thinking individuals the opportunity to love whomever they choose and be a better example to younger generations. I am incredibly proud of who I am, but more than that, I am proud to love one of the most amazingly witty, honest, dedicated people in this world... and she happens to be a beautiful woman. My hope, in regards to the outcome of this decision, is that my wedding day is one where we legally are bound together in addition to a celebration with all of our supportive friends and family :) ♥ NOH8"

“When I was a little girl and learnt about the Civil Rights Movement, I never thought I would one day be witnessing history that is seemingly so parallel. Along with it being historical for America, it’s historical for me, personally. I hope that the court makes the decision to allow free thinking individuals the opportunity to love whomever they choose and be a better example to younger generations. I am incredibly proud of who I am, but more than that, I am proud to love one of the most amazingly witty, honest, dedicated people in this world… and she happens to be a beautiful woman. My hope, in regards to the outcome of this decision, is that my wedding day is one where we legally are bound together in addition to a celebration with all of our supportive friends and family :) ♥ NOH8″

This is an amazing photo that captured the moment a gay man hugged a member of a Christian group, that came to Gay Pride to apologize for the way the church has treated homosexuals. It’s nice to see people of faith have common sense enough to know that hate and prejudice is wrong. A step in the right direction towards equality and something everyone should learn from. THIS is the kind of compassion that religion teaches, but far too often doesn’t follow. Well done.

Since seeing this photo, a friend of mine had introduced me to more of the story. A man, by the name of Nathan, is the one you see above hugging the gay guy in his underwear, or Tristan rather. Well, Nathan wrote a blog about this day and this moment and what his and his fellow church-goers had done. Here is what he had to say:

I hugged a man in his underwear. I think Jesus would have too.

I spent the day at Chicago’s Pride Parade. Some friends and I, with The Marin Foundation, wore shirts with “I’m Sorry” written on it. We had signs that said, “I’m sorry that Christians judge you,” “I’m sorry the way churches have treated you,” “I used to be a bible-banging homophobe, sorry.” We wanted to be an alternative Christian voice from the protestors that were there speaking hate into megaphones. 

What I loved most about the day is when people “got it.” I loved watching people’s faces as they saw our shirts, read the signs, and looked back at us. Responses were incredible. Some people blew us kisses, some hugged us, some screamed thank you. A couple ladies walked up and said we were the best thing they had seen all day. I wish I had counted how many people hugged me. One guy in particular softly said, “Well, I forgive you.” 

Watching people recognize our apology brought me to tears many times. It was reconciliation personified. 

My favorite though was a gentleman who was dancing on a float. He was dressed solely in white underwear and had a pack of abs like no one else. As he was dancing on the float, he noticed us and jokingly yelled, “What are you sorry for? It’s pride!” I pointed to our signs and watched him read them. 

Then it clicked. 

Then he got it. 

He stopped dancing. He looked at all of us standing there. A look of utter seriousness came across his face. And as the float passed us he jumped off of it and ran towards us. In all his sweaty beautiful abs of steal, he hugged me and whispered, “thank you.” 

Before I had even let go, another guy ran up to me, kissed me on the cheek, and gave me the biggest bear hug ever. I almost had the wind knocked out of me; it was one of those hugs. 

This is why I do what I do. This is why I will continue to do what I do. Reconciliation was personified. 

I think a lot of people would stop at the whole “man in his underwear dancing” part. That seems to be the most controversial. It’s what makes the evening news. It’s the stereotype most people have in their minds about Pride.

Sadly, most Christians want to run from such a sight rather than engage it. Most Christian won’t even learn if that person dancing in his underwear has a name. Well, he does. His name is Tristan. 

However, I think Jesus would have hugged him too. It’s exactly what I read throughout scripture: Jesus hanging out with people that religious people would flee from. Correlation between then and now? I think so. 

Acceptance is one thing. Reconciliation is another. Sure at Pride, everyone is accepted (except perhaps the protestors). There are churches that say they accept all. There are business that say the accept everyone. But acceptance isn’t enough. Reconciliation is. 

But there isn’t always reconciliation. And when there isn’t reconciliation, there isn’t full acceptance. Reconciliation is more painful; it’s more difficult. Reconciliation forces one to remember the wrongs committed and relive constant pain. Yet it’s more powerful and transformational because two parties that should not be together and have every right to hate one another come together for the good of one another, for forgiveness, reconciliation, unity.

What I saw and experienced at Pride 2010 was the beginning of reconciliation. It was in the shocked faces of gay men and women who did not ever think Christians would apologize to them.

What I saw and experienced at Pride 2010 was the personification of reconciliation. It was in the hugs and kisses I received, in the “thank you’s” and waves, in the smiles and kisses blown.

I hugged a man in his underwear. I hugged him tightly. And I am proud.

THIS is truly heart-warming. I am crying as I write this because I am proud of this man and his willingness to share what he believes, despite the criticism he may receive. After this, even more came together to keep this story going. Someone had recognized Tristan from the photo, and Tristan got in touch with Nathan. These two shared how this moment meant so much for each of them, and that is what’s remarkable. One person meets another, and for each of them, this was a lasting experience and memory.

To read the interview that nathan did with Tristan, visit Nathan’s blog HERE

All of the photos above were taken by photographer, Michelle, whose work can be seen HERE. She can also be reached in the following ways:

Address Jupiter, FL 33458
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Daytime phone 630-730-6090
E-mail loonachic@gmail.com
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Rick Santorum: Having A Parent In Prison Better Than Having Two Same-Sex Parents

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Rick Santorum is an ignorant jack ass who has no right to speak on the issue considering he has no experience with same-sex couples, parents, or colleagues. This man bases his views about gay marriage and gay parenting on what he believes to be the truth because of his religious beliefs. Sadly, due to this small reason, he hasn’t had any experience with gay people, at least, not enough to share any viewpoints on their lifestyles and how they impact a family.

If you are going to say that having an absent parent in prison is better than having two fully devoted parents, you are a completely ignorant dumb ass. Based on this comparison, I could conclude that being raped by a man would be better for me than to find love and compassion with a woman because while one is immoral (lesbianism), the other is a sin, but morally accepted based on the opinions of staunch Republicans who find the only relationship to be acknowledged should be between a man and a woman. Correct?

Citing the work of one anti-poverty expert, Santorum said, “He found that even fathers in jail who had abandoned their kids were still better than no father at all to have in their children’s lives.”

The thing I find ironically funny is that most of these parents who go into prison will most likely have a gay experience while in there. Does this mean that they are no longer a better choice than a law-abiding gay person?

FOR THE RECORD:
Rick Santorum: An article in the Jan. 7 Section A about the New Hampshire primary reported that GOP candidate Rick Santorum said in 2005 that gay marriage is no different from “man on child, man on dog, or whatever the case may be.” He said this in an interview with the Associated Press in 2003. A Los Angeles Times article on Oct. 2, 2011, also gave the incorrect 2005 date. —

Comparing molesting and/or raping children and bestiality to homosexuality is one of the most politically incorrect things I have heard out of someone’s mouth. We are not forcing people to have sex with us and be submissive to our needs. We are not looking for another species that cannot speak and say yes or no. We are not interested in children and corrupting youth. We want to love who we fall in love with, freely, openly, and without judgment. To compare of to perverted criminals with a lack of self-control is incredibly disrespectful and inaccurate. If someone with Santorum’s intelligence became President of The United States, I would not be able to proudly call myself American for I would be ashamed of the man who led this country and the voters who stood behind him.

Allowing gays to marry and raise children, Santorum said, amounts to “robbing children of something they need, they deserve, they have a right to. You may rationalize that that isn’t true, but in your own life and in your own heart, you know it’s true.”

If you haven’t read my article about Lesbian Mothers having no reported child abuse (sexually, emotionally or physically), then please click here.

There were three students that had grown up in gay households that were present for Mr. Santorum’s speech at the boarding school. Not surprisingly, these students made no scene and treated the speaker respectfully while he condemned their way of life and bashed their families morals. I would really love to hear what these students thought about what the GOP candidate had to say.

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YouTube: Zach Wahls, a 19-year-old University of Iowa student spoke about the strength of his family during a public forum on House Joint Resolution 6 in the Iowa House of Representatives. Wahls has two mothers, and came to oppose House Joint Resolution 6 which would end civil unions in Iowa.

The fight to to keep marriage equality in Iowa continues, help us support Iowans like Zach.

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[VIDEO] Riley, 5, Discusses Marketing For Boys And Girls

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Riley, 5, is a pretty smart little girl and has trouble understanding why it is that princesses are pink and marketed towards girls, while G.I. Joe‘s and things of that sort are packaged in greens and blues and marketed towards boys. The stereotypes that are in place today, which offer guidance for what girls and boys should be interested in, often make me wonder if we’ll ever be able to stray away from the 50′s idea of what men and women should do and how they should act. Fortunately, we have young children, like Riley, who make it seem so apparent that this is wrong and not the way we should be encouraging our children. Just because the princess is in a pink package does not mean that a little boy can’t play with it, yet, he’s far too aware that the consequences of wanting and/or getting such a gift wouldn’t be all that great.

Way to go Riley! If only some adults could not be so ignorant and take advice from you, we might be better off.

And although she isn’t aware of what a provocative statement she made for the gay community, I’d like to send thanks to her for that as well. At this time, when a young boy’s parent is questioned because she paints his nails pink, we really need people to stand up and express that color doesn’t identify someone. We should already be well aware of this, thanks to the Civil Rights Movement, but sadly, we are not.

Gay children find it harder to come out because of these exact scenarios. If they want to buy a princess, the bullying begins and they learn from the get go, that in order to not be made fun of they can’t play with the toys they like, act the way they wish, or someday find love in a companion they choose. This is what is truly heartbreaking and this reason that little Riley is such an amazing girl.

 

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Nigeria Senate Votes To Ban Gay Marriage!

Although America seems to be making progress as far as Homosexuality and accepting it are concerned, there are still countries out there where religion outlines their laws. Although there are many that wish it were the same here in the United States, I’m happy to see this changing. There are still many states that don’t approve of same-sex marriage and it is illegal, but there are also places that homosexuals can marry and escape some criticism for their love life. Progress means everything though because it initiates a tidal wave of equality and acceptance, it’s just a matter of time.

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Senators in Nigeria voted Tuesday to approve a bill that would criminalize same-sex marriage with prison terms of more than a decade for couples and those who help them marry.

The bill would penalize same-sex couples who marry with up to 14 years in prison, according to the Associated Press, while witnesses and others who assist them could be sentenced to 10 years. The House of Representatives still needs to pass the bill, and President Goodluck Jonathan has to sign it, but supports for the measure appears widespread in deeply religious Nigeria, the most populous nation in Africa. 

Same-sex marriages and homosexuality already are illegal in the country, where in some parts of the north, gays and lesbians can be stoned to death under Islamic Shariah law. Countries throughout Africa have sought to criminalize homosexuality, most notably in Uganda, where an internationally decried measure would impose the death penalty for some gays and lesbians. Lawmakers in Nigeria have now tried three times to pass the law banning same-sex marriage, and a similar bill is being considered in Cameroon. 

The Nigerian bill has drawn sharp opposition from international human rights organizations that, according to the AP, sent a letter to President Goodluck earlier this month. Advocates fear that the bill could hinder HIV/AIDS prevention and treatment efforts, stir violent antigay sentiments, and criminalize couples who live together without being married.

 

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[VIDEO] Two Officers Suspended After UC David Pepper-Spraying Incident

Friday Nov. 18th at 4:54 PM officers were caught on video pepper-spraying the peaceful protesters on UC Davis‘ campus after they refused to get out of the way for police.

Shortly after this video was releases, many people from all over had come together to speak out on behalf of the students and against the police who were shown implementing the pepper spray in this video. UC Davis and Chancellor had received negative feedback over this incident and decided they must take action.

In a statement, school Chancellor Linda Katehi announced that the officers were on administrative leave. She also said that she accepted ‘full responsibility’ for Friday’s incident.

Unfortunately, many people had hoped that this announcement would include her resignation, which it did not.

Witnesses watched in horror as police moved in on more than a dozen tents erected in the campus quad drenching demonstrators with the burning yellow spray and arresting 10 people, nine of them students.

Although UC Davis had not named the officers, one of them has been identified locally as Lt John Pike.

In the latest statement Ms Katehi said:  ‘I spoke with students this weekend, and I feel their outrage. ‘I have also heard from an overwhelming number of students, faculty, staff and alumni from around the country.

‘I am deeply saddened that this happened on our campus, and as chancellor, I take full responsibility for the incident.

Holding firm: Linda Katehi, the chancellor of the University of California, Davis on Saturday afternoon called video images of an officer calmly pepper-spraying a line of student protesters a day earlier 'chilling' but said she would not step down.Mea Culpa: Linda Katehi, the chancellor of the University of California, Davis on Sunday accepted full responsibility but did not step down

But despite widespread calls for her resignation, the chancellor still refused to budge.

The statement continued: ‘I pledge to take the actions needed to ensure that this does not happen again.’

‘I feel very sorry for the harm our students were subjected to and I vow to work tirelessly to make the campus a more welcoming and safe place.’

Katehi said the investigation into the events surrounding the arrests, including communications from the police to the administration had been accelerated with a deadline of 30 days for the task force to issue its report.

The students were showing their support of Occupy Wall Street which has gained recognition all around the world. Their right to protest peacefully was threatened when police took advantage of their strength in being determined to sit there and stand up for what they believed in.

The moving protest was held in support of the overall Occupy Wall Street movement and in solidarity with protesters at the University of California, Berkeley who were jabbed by police with batons on November 9.

The school faculty association had demanded the chancellor’s resignation, saying that her authorisation of police force represented ‘a gross failure of leadership’. 

A statement released by the Davis faculty board said: ‘Given the recent use of excessive force by police against ‘occupy’ protestors at UC Berkeley and elsewhere, the Chancellor must have anticipated that, by authorizing police action, she was effectively authorizing their use of excessive force against peaceful UCD student protestors.

This seems like a rather strong statement. Why would you need police to be prevalent at a unified peaceful protest on your campus? The students were doing nothing wrong and sitting quietly to show they supported their peers at other campuses that had endured the negativity of the police.

Sadly, the pepper spraying incident just adds fuel to the fire and proves that these students are out here for the right reason. They have the right to make their complaints known to those in charge and not persecuted for voicing them. It is wrong for the police to use such brutality when nothing is being done. other than the refusal to move from where they were protesting.

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A Question For Pro-Life Advocates. I am Pro-Choice. This is Amazing.

So, what do you think? Would you rather kill the fetus knowing the outcome of its sexuality? Or is it still a ‘life’ and worth fighting to save? And if you fight for the right for it to be born, I think you owe it to them to fight for their rights after birth. Ultimately, it was you who brought this gay child into the world and have opened them up to ridicule, bullying, and the denial of their equal rights. What do you think?

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A Pastor Instructs His Congregation To Beat Gay Couple Arriving At Church

Although Christianity is prominent in our country, it, as an institution, does not promote hatred or assaults against the Homosexual community. In fact, where I live in Los Angeles, I have found many Christians who are open with the idea and are helping to support our fight for equality. Unfortunately, this is not the case at Grace Fellowship Church in Fruitland, TN.

This story is much deeper and goes far beyond the fact that the Pastor was unable to accept the gay men coming to his congregation due to his religious and moral beliefs. I believe that because one of these men, Jerry Pittman, Jr., was his son is what truly ignited his anger and hatred.

After Pittman Jr.’s father had yelled to many of the deacons and congregation members, “Sick ‘em,” he recollects the attack on himself and his boyfriend:

“My uncle and two other deacons came over to the car per my dad’s request. My uncle smashed me in the door as the other deacon knocked my boyfriend back so he couldn’t help me, punching him in his face and his chest. The other deacon came and hit me through my car window in my back.”

Even after the attack and police officers on the scene, many people continued to verbally abuse the young gay couple with vicious homosexual verbiage. No one stepped in and did the right thing, no one protected these young men who were coming to worship the same God that has acceptance for all his “children”, and even the police officers refused the victims the right to press charges against their attackers.

Jerry Pittman Jr. and his boyfriend, Dustin Lee, have since filed  charges against two of the men who beat them as well as Pastor Jerry Pittman.  A hearing has been scheduled in Gibson County Court for Tuesday, October 4th.

This pastor is a disgraceful human being that doesn’t deserve a brave young man to carry on his name. If God did exist (I’m sorry, but I do not believe he does), I highly doubt that he would forgive a sin as heinous as this one. You are a bad example of faith and religion and make true, honest, accepting Christians look bad in the eyes of many. Luckily, there are plenty more Christians out there who do not accept nor defend your actions in regards to you SON and his boyfriend. Grow up and be a better example of what the Bible tries to teach as far as morality, forgiveness and understanding is concerned.

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Marriage: One Man, One Woman – Two Words: Fuck You

Here is a video from the Republicans debate last night. Their answers and beliefs about gay marriage are answered honestly. Bachmann and Perry royally irritated me through this:

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